The Law of Attraction: Competing Intentions

Another question for which The Law of Attraction and The Secret do not appear to provide answers to the following question: If two or more people have conflicting intentions, how is it determined as to whose desires are granted?

Suppose a husband and wife have strong feelings as to the direction their relationship should take and those feelings are not aligned, then whose desires will take precedence? One spouse could be focused on building a strong profession and climbing the corporate ladder while the other spouse could be focused on building a strong family unit with lots of time and activities together. Although not necessarily mutually exclusive, these two positions could be problematic in a relationship. One spouse could be focused on having children while the other could be focused on maintaining an independent child free relationship to allow as much freedom as possible for other things. One could be a spender and the other could be very frugal. Situations arise daily in a relationship where spouses can be opposed to each other in their wants and desires.

Look at a divorce situation. Look at the competing wants and intentions; look at the tactics and expense to which the parties will go in attempting to manifest their intentions. Usually this a competitive event in which the spouses attempt to shred each other for personal gain. In rare occasions there will be an amicable separation and / or co-operation on issues surrounding the children. The ultimate winner is always the lawyers who have their intentions manifested (payment) no matter what the outcome of the spousal war.

How is it decided which spouse will be granted his / her desires? Is there a competition within the Universal energies? Is the outcome dependent on whose intentions are more focused? Does the Universe look to see which intentions, if granted, would provide the most gain? If so, would that be gain on a global scale? Do Universal energies even allow that that kind of competition to occur?

There are probably times when both spouses have their wishes granted and the result is a parting of the ways, a disintegration of the relationship. In this situation, the parting is for the better.

Another scenario where conflicting intentions can arise is in the employment arena. A vacancy can arise for which two or more people can intend to successfully apply for the position. What determines which person will be successful? Merit and seniority are often cited as the reason for success. However, we all know situations where successful candidates have not been the most senior, had the highest or most relevant education or were seen to be the most qualified candidate overall. Potential, charisma, and right connections are sometimes cited as being the reason for success in these instances.

What leads to that success? Proponents of The Secret will say is The Law of Attraction at work. Although it is not possible to prove otherwise, it is necessary to ask why The Law of Attraction worked for the successful candidate but not for the others. It certainly appears like a win / loss situation. But is it? Did each person receive exactly what they were intending? How could that be? If the intending is being done incorrectly; if The Law of Attraction is being applied incorrectly, then The Secret is that you will receive exactly what you believe you don’t want.

Some of the ways of applying The Law of Attraction incorrectly will be discussed in the next post. If we wish to use The Law of Attraction to our benefit, we must understand its application and we must understand how it can produce the very things we think we don’t want. Those who learn the ways to use The Law of Attraction effectively become very successful in achieving the successes they want to see in their lives.